Move fear out of the way– only then are we able to be our best selves!
Move fear out of the way– only then are we able to be our best selves!
Life can be unpredictable– the ups and downs we encounter are usually the only things we can count on being constant. Our reactivity to life’s events will cause our minds to be flooded, and like a machine that’s overworked– it will start to overheat and breakdown. There are preventative measures that can be taken when we need to sleep, restart, shutdown, save energy, etc. (instead of running on a low battery and being forced away from our operating duties).
Here are some great ways to get our power back and free our minds from what causes us stress:
It is important for us to reach out to people who can demonstrate active listening skills when stress occurs and we need to let off some steam. They should be able to comfort us without judgement and if necessary empathize with our feelings. They may also need to physically be there for us, to help us through what we cannot do alone. These are great people to have in our lives– make sure to be there for them as well, or do something for them that they’ll enjoy.
Being on the same page with people who hold us accountable to our goals is crucial to our success. We can set aside time to check-in with them every week to allow them to help elevate us to where we want to be.
We may also turn to online platforms, with a specific purpose in mind (without trying to numb the pain) but to empower us to be the best versions of ourselves. There’s nothing like a little confidence boost!
There’s nothing that allows us to get to know ourselves better / grow more than new experiences. We can choose to pick something we’re personally invested in– if for the short-term, great… if for the long-term, even better! The hope is that by doing this we gain insight and a sense of happiness when being focused on productivity.
It’s amazing how much creativity comes from writing down our thoughts! If practiced daily, we’d see a written account of how we operate (from how time is spent, thought patterns, and future actions that we want to take).
A great way to start / end the day is just to free write without judgement for at least 3 pages / day.
Everyone knows they should do it, but we’re usually one excuse too many for why we DON’T have time in our schedules. There is 10-15 minutes that we can find in our days to do something that we enjoy each week. After a routine is established, just up the number of days and amount of time it’s done per week. I’ve found great pleasure out of the following:
What do you like to do to stay fit?
What steps can you take to schedule ONE of these things during the week?
Do you have someone who can hold you accountable to what you’re saying you’re going to apply?
When we complain a whole lot, it’s partly because the inner child within us still needs love and something is taking away from that time. As adults making money, having status, or being concerned about everything that we shouldn’t can get in the way of giving our inner child some nourishment.
Detachment is healthy in short bursts and a necessary part of cultivating a sense of peace. With everything going on in our lives, it may seem harder each day to have some good old-fashioned “me time”. Without it, the more we might start lose our temper and mirror actions similar to… The Hulk’s.
The Internet is undefeated because now it’s easier to prioritize being online rather than taking care of our personal health. We have a human and virtual identity to maintain. Sometimes in order to keep our human self (cringe) in balance, we must turn off our virtual self from time to time, to keep our sanity. The FOMO bug can be taken away once we see how beautiful life already is without attachment to fear… or our shiny black boxes!
Fear – a limitation set to keep us from going beyond our comfort zone. At times, it may even keep us from achieving success. For that reason, failure is closely associated with fear. The expectations that others may have for us or that we might have for ourselves, can get in the way of rational thinking– leading to self-sabotage.
Recognize the fear – We can try to quiet our minds and notice what types of thoughts are there and why. Our internal monologues should be turned off when it’s no longer supporting us. We can ask ourselves: are these thoughts coming from a place of intuition?
We may also turn to breathing exercises or journaling to bring our minds to awareness.
Embrace that our “worst-case” scenario generally doesn’t happen… – but when it does be prepared. There’s times when the building does catch on fire and it’s not a drill or there’s an active shooter. People are socialized into panic mode, instead of practicing handling the situation efficiently.
Face the reality of the outcomes – Making plans are a necessary a part of being effective but when it comes to actions leave ALL expectations at the door. We’ve already practiced accomplishing what we set out to do; all we can hope for is that our habits have contributed to success and if not, there’s more work ahead. We must congratulate ourselves on the progress we’ve made! It’s unnecessary to beat ourselves up for what’s outside of our control. We can always plan again if the outcome we reached is not satisfactory to us.
Cultivate Self-love and Self-respect – Self-love and self-respect is never given but always taken. Doors start flying open or close when our inner expression is that of putting our needs first. This takes time to develop and there’s much to be explored / discovered about what we love and respect about ourselves. The joke is that it was waiting for us the whole time!
Our comfort zone is not something we just walk out of– it doesn’t happen overnight but rather through the practice of taking small steps over time. Often we resist leaving what we know which blocks the leap into an area of vulnerability. Our minds tend to tune in to what fear has to say and it is a challenge to overcome that behavior. Being afraid of vulnerability might come from not wanting to reveal who we truly are to the world or more importantly to ourselves.
Eventually we have to face our fears– it is life’s inevitability. Recently I have been trying to conquer a fear of standing on my head. As silly as it may sound, I haven’t put much effort into it since childhood. The more I let fear sit within me, the less likely the chance of me accomplishing the goal. The small steps of practicing yoga, meditation, and healthy eating habits have made it easier for me to be more comfortable within my skin.
Through research, I’ve come across multiple sources that have listed benefits of what I was trying to do. I’ve put it into practice as much as possible and when I tried today something remarkable happened! Even though I didn’t make it all the way, I realized that because I was creating the tension, my body would only allow me to go so far. The lesson learned here is that we can let unnecessary tension go by not inflicting it upon ourselves in the first place. We’re not always going to be in a comfortable environment, but the more we relax, the more receptive we can be.
Growing confident within myself
I realized anything’s possible with God’s help.
I really want to stress the importance of getting into practice mode. If you’re afraid of speaking in front of a large group, start by practicing in the mirror, in front of friends, small groups, etc. until you get to the point where you’ve exceeded the goal. There will be times when you feel like you’re getting nowhere or that you’re not digging deep enough. But by continuing to practice leaving your comfort zone, a confidence will grow from within. When you finally step into where the magic happens, you will realize that anything is possible.