realitee: A Dream For Freedom


If you listen to the speech above you may gather that MLK’s blueprint for empowerment hasn’t exactly seen itself through yet. Over 50 years later, and we’re still witnessing our people die at the hands of violence, starvation, illness and drug abuse. The question is: are we delusional to the point of believing that all we can do is wait for someone to come along and change the way things are? With this type of mentality, distractions are constantly allowed to get in the way of movement– doing nothing to hold this country or ourselves accountable.

Circumstances can make it feel like it’s a struggle just to make it through the day because money is valued more than our own dreams– failing to realize that we are getting in the way of ourselves. Black vs. White looks like the main event on the surface but we’ve been battling internally for a while now and this cycle of pain continues. We have to remember to be responsible for our own actions.

We should be looking to do what we can not only to better ourselves but also our community. Becoming educated is fine and dandy, but what good is it if we don’t find a way to strategize together? Now let me ask: Is tweeting about our issues making any advances? Is marching to the end of the world stopping our daily struggle? Sure we’re not going to remain quiet about all the heinous things that happen in the world. But we have to be honest– we’re stuck in an old way of thinking and until we figure out a new method of fighting, the quicksand will keep swallowing us.

Continuing to make the wrong moves also has to stop. For example, we know that crime is a business to make the rich richer and keep those in prison without the means to be creative, right? But how many people do we know that are locked up right now (not because of the powers that be but) for something stupid that could’ve been prevented? It’s also time to start changing the way we think about each other– because most of the time we’re just holding petty grudges. We have to come together for the greater good. Until there are communities continuously and whole-heartedly working together, there can’t be any movement. We also have to stop the drum major instinct. Once we figure that out, we will be ready to strategize.

Even though there is a lot of  work ahead, don’t be afraid to dream like Dr. King–  standing behind a purpose to see humanity in harmony. He didn’t have a holiday or boulevard in mind for all the hard work and effort he put into bringing people together for the cause. But if we continue to fight to keep our dreams alive, we’ll go further than we’ve ever gone– and surely that’s worth more than any dollar amount in a bank account. My dream today is for people to grow personally and build as a community, what’s yours?



realitee: where the magic happens


Our comfort zone is not something we just walk out of– it doesn’t happen overnight but rather through the practice of taking small steps over time. Often we resist leaving what we know which blocks the leap into an area of vulnerability. Our minds tend to tune in to what fear has to say and it is a challenge to overcome that behavior. Being afraid of vulnerability might come from not wanting to reveal who we truly are to the world or more importantly to ourselves.


Eventually we have to face our fears– it is life’s inevitability. Recently I have been trying to conquer a fear of standing on my head. As silly as it may sound, I haven’t put much effort into it since childhood. The more I let fear sit within me, the less likely the chance of me accomplishing the goal. The small steps of practicing yoga, meditation, and healthy eating habits have made it easier for me to be more comfortable within my skin.

Through research, I’ve come across multiple sources that have listed benefits of what I was trying to do. I’ve put it into practice as much as possible and when I tried today something remarkable happened! Even though I didn’t make it all the way, I realized that because I was creating the tension, my body would only allow me to go so far. The lesson learned here is that we can let unnecessary tension go by not inflicting it upon ourselves in the first place. We’re not always going to be in a comfortable environment, but the more we relax, the more receptive we can be.

Growing confident within myself

I realized anything’s possible with God’s help.

I really want to stress the importance of getting into practice mode. If you’re afraid of speaking in front of a large group, start by practicing in the mirror, in front of friends, small groups, etc. until you get to the point where you’ve exceeded the goal. There will be times when you feel like you’re getting nowhere or that you’re not digging deep enough. But by continuing to practice leaving your comfort zone, a confidence will grow from within. When you finally step into where the magic happens, you will realize that anything is possible.

realitee: Appreciating the Now


Two weeks from now I’ll be putting on my cap and gown. I cringe everytime the word congratulations is thrown at me because there’s a cliffhanger of uncertainty about the rest of my life. Somehow I don’t feel like How To Make It In America prepared me enough for what’s to come (sidebar: a movie or third season would be clutch Mark Wahlberg).


It’s getting closer to that time for me to encounter to a harsher reality. I can vividly remember reading a rather delightful article on the joys of student loans a while back, which life has given me a crash course on already. Being a Brooklynite, I already know struggle is real(er) in NY when I move back.

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The beauty of all this is being able to laugh at these situations before they actually hit me. I randomly checked out a web series called Clench & Release in which comedian and all-around good dude Kevin Iso has a cameo. It couldn’t paint a better picture of the life I will have to get used to.

The series follows Charla Lauriston’s woes of being a struggling stand-up comedian. Her encounters are everything from a homeless guy offering her cocaine to a man masturbating on a subway platform, which is NYC at its best. I let out a sigh of relief thinking I won’t be alone riding out my twenties being broke and wanting to find love (& messing it all up in the process). It was refreshing because I haven’t been entertained by a YouTube series since Awkward Black Girl went on hiatus. C&R was a good segue.

Since I’m climbing out the small window from my age to 30, there’s a lot of pressure not to mess up anything else. So until I take my flight back home in the summer, I’ll enjoy the last hours spent sitting through pointless lectures, procrastinating homework, and getting to boogie by myself–  because even though I’ve grasped many lessons, I fathom this is just the beginning. *cues MGMT*